This is to every wife or mom out there!!! I need to tell ya’ll something that you MUST DO!!! Take some solo time… alone…away!!!! It’s a must!!! I am a wife (19 yrs of marriage) and a mom of three teenagers (parenting for 17.5 years)….and for the first time in my adult life, I took a solo vacation. And it was more than I ever dreamed and hoped for.
If you read my last post, A HOT MESS,, you would have learned that I have been in a very rough and difficult time in my life. Life has been messy. And once the mess gets so out of control….just like a dirty unorganized house, you can get overwhelmed, stressed, and freaked out. And, suddenly you do not even know where to begin to start cleaning the mess up. That is where I have been recently.
So, I needed a temporary escape from all the chaos. And it was GLORIOUS! Simply divine and glorious!!
I traveled to East Texas and stayed at a friend’s lake house. The place was perfect. Plenty to do outside, plenty of nature, and complete quietness. I came with NO PLANS other than to rest, pray, read my Bible, and be outside (I hear God best when being outdoors).
So I spent three days alone at this lake house. I would wake early and go for a run on the windy roads around the lake. I saw deer all the time. I would then sit on the back porch (for hours) that over looked this quite beautiful lake, and I would pray, read my Bible and work on hand lettering scriptures for fun while I ate breakfast. After lunch, I would go get in the water and either swim or paddle board. I would also binge watch Greys Anatomy on Netflix too… ha ha ha. And I did a lot of sitting and thinking and meditating on what God wanted from and for me.
I can not explain how magical that time was to have there all alone. I remember thinking to myself as I drove out there….. I am probably gonna get lonely or bored. LET ME TELL YOU!!!! I DID NOT ONE DANG BIT!!! It was so freeing, relaxing and refreshing to just BE STILL for once.
I also would advice you to do something out of your comfort zone while away too. For me….. I never knew I would have a problem getting into unknown lake waters BY MYSELF! It seriously took me 15 minutes and a glass of wine to get in. HAHAHA! And then I got even more daring by pulling out the paddle board and then getting out on on that by myself. 1) I have only paddle-boarded once 2) What if I fell off and couldn’t get back on by myself? But I did it…..and it was a blast! I paddle-boarded all over that lake! LOVED LOVED LOVED IT!!!
The last night my husband came to join me….he brought me steaks for dinner and I “allowed” him to crash my party for the evening. Which was a nice treat to end my time there. But do not tell him—-my time alone there was way better than the steak :).
Funny thing was…..I found myself crying as I left my little oasis that last day. Because the reality of my normal chaotic life awaited me back at home. I wasn’t really crying because I didn’t want to come back home….but because I was so grateful for that time alone with God for a few short days. I knew the reality of the BUSY WORLD was going to grab hold of me again once I arrived back home.
I am home! I am refreshed… a bit renewed. And loving my chaotic life. But I do have on my calendar to make it a priority to have a solo vacation once a year from here on out!!! I am counting the days to my next one……