“Objects in the Mirror” are not as real as they appear

I can’t even count how often I hear…..”Oh you guys are too cute!”  “You guys have such the perfect family.”  We are frequently told that some of our Facebook posts are fun and “they make me smile.” My husband and I also get mentioned as a “great couple” whom others look up to.

But I am just gonna get real raw and honest here!  We really aren’t cute!  We don’t have our “crap” together…  In matter of a fact, we are a dang mess most of the time.  We really are!!!

I do admit, we do have a great family and we work really hard to maintain our family……  BUT…….

Our kids don’t always win, we skip workouts, we eat poorly sometimes, we aren’t always “happy,” we don’t get invited to parties, our bank account gets laughable, our house is frequently messy, we fight, we skip church, we make excuses,  the sound coming from our cars need attention, and our baseboards are really bad.

Behind the curtain of our life… is absolute pure chaos sometimes.

To be honest, this past year has been the toughest year for our family. We have been in the biggest valley of our marriage. It is ONLY by God’s Grace that we are even still married.

Thankfully, we have had some good moments of laughter, success, smiles, and good friends along the way. God has been with us every step, every crawl, and every stare-at-the-ceiling late night.

So don’t let social media fool you. Most people post the best things about their week… We frequently do too. But it is not the only reality.

Don’t let social media fool you.

Tears, down times, sadness, and valleys are real, too. Struggling to just “barely hanging on” is a reality that you can live in for long periods of time. Believe me, I know.

Hang in there… if you feel alone or not as cool as the Facebook post of your friends. It’s OK. It’s OK to struggle. It’s OK to not live up to a fantasy.  We all live in the same real, broken world.

Be thankful we have a Savior that helps us through the dark times and a Savior to thank in the good times.

I know I have had to cling to Him in the valleys of life. I try to remember to cling when walking on the mountain tops too.

We are in this struggle together. You have seen my struggle in the past, and you know that I am still in the midst of it.” Phil 1:30